A lil lesson

Sunday, March 4, 2018

Unless you were me and read the back of this shirt 2472984 billion times, you would see that it says," be kind to my petals or get my thorns. This is something that really resonates with me. But unlike flowers, we don't actually have thorns, we just snap back with some of that GOOD OL' ATTITUDE.

Whenever I hear someone start to snap , my mind goes "1-800 bitch whats your problem?" BC for real, the faster we can address what your issue is the better,  and we can move forward from the negativity.
So with these types of people, you really have to be kind with them. Because maybe thats exactly what they lack. Or it could be some food. Or maybe they just aren't getting any. Attitude can come from a variety of reasons. Just be patient and try to be understanding. You'll be a lil ray of light to someone and you'll be working on your character development.
So that's my little lesson for this gloomy Sunday. Just be kind, not only for people with attitude, but towards anyone. It doesn't cost anything so for all you cheap fucks out there, so you have nothing to lose monetarily :)

Outfit deets:
Beret: old Marc by Marc Jacobs
Glasses: Dollskill
Jeans: Levi's

Photo's by @royal.youths

Outfits speak louder than wordz

Monday, February 26, 2018

Growing up painfully shy, there were times where I would attempt to speak and my voice would fail me. So later on in life I started depending on my outfits, cause I knew they could speak for me. They would attract people, which would initiate conversation. It really couldn't be any easier!
I often times used other people's outfits as a mean of talking to them too. Because tbh how do you approach people and befriend them? I'll be a senior citizen before I figure this one out. It's a challenge  when you have so much to say but aren't sure how to let it out. When to say it. And that feeling of defeat of having to suck on your teeth when you lose the moment and know that it's not going to come back. Then you wonder what kind of impact your lost words would have had on the conversation. Would someone have agreed? Would someone have laughed? You wouldn't be able to know but continue to wonder.

At my weekend job,  (yes I have a weekday one too), people are so incredibly altered by silence and lack of conversation. They start to question you and your wellbeing. Being quiet doesn't necessarily translate to something being wrong or not feeling well. There is a distinct difference between actual silence and not wanting to interact. The majority of people there are just so loud and attention seeking, which really clashes with my personality. Loud people don't like quiet people, and I don't like loud people. The thing about silence is the misconception that comes with it from others . They may find it awkward. embarrassing. unsettling. uncertain. and so on. It's just not that deep. 
It's so much easier for me to write or text as opposed to talking. I have photos done by @royal.youths for the next two blog posts, but even now I'm having the trouble finding what to write about. I aways want to make it a relevant topic, and something that hopefully a few people could relate to. But what sucks just as much as not being able to find the words, is this new Instagram algorithm! This shit sucks.
I'm off to go find some words now.

Outfit deets:
Beret: Old Marc by Marc Jacobs
glasses: Dollskill
leather jacket: Bershka (go to the Pop-Up in Soho!)
orange camo pants: Dollskill
shirt: Newcomer NYC (you have to see them live & buy one at a show!)
heels: Jeffrey Cambell Cienega-Lo (try LF)

Have you ever depended on your fit to attract conversation? Or is it just me and my lack of social skills? As always you can drop it low in the comments below.

February Pickz

Sunday, February 4, 2018

So the month everyone either loves or hates is here. I rounded up some cute picks to give you some ideas of how to style on for February. So whether it's the 1st, Valentines Day, or the entire month, heres a few pieces to snag and show some spirit (or not haha.)

If your shopping habits are as beyond repair as mine, you can score this tee here.

Digging this tee too? Prove it here or on The Ragged Priest website.

Be the queen of hearts in this Lazy Oaf piece. Tbh, I think I'm ordering this on Friday when I get paid haha.

Just don't set this shirt on fire and you'll both be fine.

Well, you can't go out without some bottoms...

If you aren't the type to wear your heart on your sleeve, then wear it above your kneecap.

Get your outfit in check with these cool pants from Lazy Oaf.

Your face won't be the only thing to get anyones attention on any day of this month. The back of these overalls are bound to do that for you too.

Just know the difference between dating BOYS, and MEN, that's all I gotta say :) Same thing vice versa for girls and women.

You like shoes? Well so did Scotty Vanity & that Youtube video worked out really well for him.

your mans/woman/other isn't going to be the only thing on fire.

Not suitable for the purple dinosaur, but you're just in luck. I own these and get a shit ton of compliments. Tell me not though- so funky.

I'm not a tickled pink kinda girl, but someone is, and even though I'm not, I'd totally wear these with an all-black ensemble just to put the spotlight on these docs.

I have these when there was only one picture on the Vans website, so I assumed both shoes said "Not Yours," which wasn't true. Also, the insides have flowers and the sole is Red. Cardi B, these ain't expensive, but these IS red bottoms ;)

I have way more than 8 suggestions, but this post would have been eternal and I had some issues with uploading photos on my backend. Which piece did you like best? Do you have a piece that you think I'd really like? Send me the link and drop it low in the comments below :)

*All photos taken from original websites, box label text was added by me.


Not a Barbie Girl

Sunday, January 28, 2018

I was more of a Bratz girl. You remember? The dolls with a passion for fashion? Chloe, Sasha, Yasmin, and Jade? Something like that. Anyway. THEY DONT EXIST AT TOYS R US ANYMORE. I was shocked when I asked the manager where they were, only to find out, that they don't sell them anymore. I would make a comment on perhaps thats the reason why 180 of their stores are closing this year, but I'll skip past it.

I recently got these Barnie Platform boots from Dollskill and wow, just wow. I fucking love them and don't think I'll ever find another pair of these shoes in my life. Even the police were looking at me with tilted heads. Now, I have to explain why the police was there. At a mere not even 1:00pm on a Friday morning.
While Smitty was taking my picture, a couple came behind him, made some remarks and said "don't mind us, we're just stealing." BALLSY. WHY SAY IT OUT LOUD. They looked like they were just looking, so we continued our shoot as they continued their browsing and loud talking. They needed
lessons on how to be subtle.

We don't see them again. We browse most of the aisles- how nostalgic. It still baffles me how the company is going bankrupt, theres so much of an assortment, THERES JUST SO MANY TOYS, SO MANY ENDLESS HOURS OF FUN , CREATIVITY, AND IMAGINATION. Then Smitty tells me "Soni, kids don't want toys anymore, they want technology." Honestly, it was the sad truth. Maybe the kids of the future will never know what its like to build a giant Hot Wheels race track like my brother and me used to do. Maybe, they'll never know the pain of stepping on some fucking Leggos. Maybe, they won't know what it's like to run outdoors and attack each other with Nerf guns. So many of these toys were some of my best, if not best, childhood memories. You can't get these experiences by watching other children recording unboxing videos on Youtube, which is what younger children do today. Talk about the wasted youth.
My favorite part  was when we went to the electric car aisle. Back in the day, they weren't locked in place- you could test drive them. Now...not the case. To our luck, there was a yellow Ferrari available as our prop. We were mortified that we would get kicked out and how we managed to get that many photos in without someone asking wtf were we even doing there to begin with. So everytime an employee passed by, we tried to play it as cool as possible. But when you see a girl with outrageous boots and a guy with a camera, its pretty obvious that the last thing we were doing was shopping for a 'rari. But it sure as hell was funny.

As we wrap up and get ready to head out, I buy a Sonic POP and we wait for our Uber. Suddenly, one cop car shows up. Then another. Then ANOTHER. 6 cops proceed inside. It looks like that couple was arrested. Of all places to get arrested, your deff bound to get a good laugh once someone hears it happened at Toys "R" Us. Moral of the story. Don't steal toys.
Outfit deets: My beret is from Dollskill
shirt: Dollskill
jeans: Topshop
shoes: Dollskill
glasses: Vans
Fuck you lunchbox: SOLD OUT ;/

Amazing pictures as always by @royal.youths. Disclaimer, if you purchase something directly from my links, I will get a nominal commission fee. 

I JUST NOW NOTICED THIS, but I owned this shirt before the beret came out and I decided to style these two on my own, I didn't take the idea from them >_<

What was your favorite toy at Toys "R" Us? Drop it low in the comments below. Till next time internet friends.

Current Mood

Tuesday, January 16, 2018

Outfit deets: 
Hat-Urban Outfitters
Glasses- Vans
Jacket- Emory Park Clothing
Skirt- Current Mood Clothing
Heels- Current Mood Clothing

Photos by @royal.youths

I've been to the year 2000

Tuesday, January 9, 2018

Actually, I've lived it. Thinking back to 18 years ago, shits so much more different.

What I enjoyed about the 2000's was the ease of life. I had no worries. I had my dunkaroos, capri suns, and lunchables after school. Get a little fancy and make it a giant Arizona Iced Tea instead. The only tats I had were the Fruit by the Foot ones, and of course they didn't last long but as a kid, that's the type of shit that would get you excited about living.

Cell phones didn't even have color yet. Hit Clips and beanie babies were cool. Troll dolls existed. Lava Lamps and magic eight balls and Bop- Its were the toys just about everyone had. People played games, actual games, like Twister and Sorry. INFLATABLE CHAIRS WERE ROOM DECOR.

Another 2000's icon: my idol- Avril Lavigne. She was "mom," of the past decade. She wore a lot of black, had pink extensions, wore baggy pants, was a well known punk rock princess. I wanted to be her when I grew up.

The 2000's also came with an interesting sense of fashion and beauty...bright and bold eyeshadow, crimped hair, studded belts in every color, and pants so baggy you might as well have worn your bedroom comforter out. Colored eyeshadow is BOLD AF, BAGGY PANTS ARE SO COMFORTABLE! Most people think  fashion and lifestyle of the 2000's as a disaster... I don't. In fact, I want to revive it.

So I present to you, the new sonifromconey. I want bold looks. I WANT DIFFERENT, against the norm, nontraditional. Looks that willl make you look back. Looks that will make you look twice. While the looks I've worn have been my style, its been my reserved style. When I had depression, I was too skeptical to go out and lacked the confidence to dress to my liking in front of other people.  I'd spend time hunting down the perfect pieces and do crazy lip colors , even paint my eyebrows pink, and then just sit in my room...the rest of the day. It was actually really sad. Nobody ever got to see. 

 Two of my favorite bloggers, LinaBugz and SpoopyKristen, are alternative style bloggers and they are the coolest bloggers on the planet. Kristen does sick  makeup looks and Lina's style is unreal.  (Ironically, we also both own this Ragged Priest shirt.) After being a loyal follower for years, they've inspired me to finally start being able to wear my personal style out more in public. Wearing these checkerboard platform boots got me some pretty wild looks, but these shoes are awesome and my favorites and no nasty glare or girl videotaping me to her Snapstory is going to change that. (that actually happened.) So go and buy the crazy shoes, top, or bottoms. Wear them.  Love them. Fuck anyone that wants to shit on you for what you like. They suck, not you.

Top from the Ragged Priest, glasses from Petals and Peacocks, pants from Brandy Melville, and platforms from Current Mood clothing. Photos by @royal.youths.

Let's "Link Up"

Monday, October 30, 2017

If you are spending more time stalking your crush over the gram than seeking out people with your dream job on LinkedIn, then you are DOING IT WRONG.

Let me introduce you all to LinkedIn, the more professional version of Facebook. Here is the formal adult world where you will not find modern day memes, INSIDER videos, and every wannabe news reporter. Expect to find inspirational quotes, positive stories, and situations to reflect on. Of course you can't do this all without a proper network.

Remember when you were younger and added everyone on Facebook from people you actually knew to people you've made eye contact with just a strand of their hair? If even that. Welcome to LinkedIn, where you will renew this younger social media habit. Instead, this time, you are going to put the "social" in social media.

On the first day of school or a job, theres ALWAYS that round of introductions followed by an eyeroll from someone that dreads the idea. (tbh that was always me in class) Instead of adding someone and never talking to them, how about you send a request and INTRODUCE YOURSELF. Ask them how they are as well and if they would be willing to talk about their work experiences. Do this especially with people that are working in your desired field. Just because you don't personally know them does't mean you can't reach out to them. Didn't all your friends start off as strangers anyway? Exactly my point. So start typing and building that network.

Next up: your actual profile. Pick a really good picture, not your Saturday night TAO or Dream Downton ones, but a simple, "heres my face one."Rumor has it you should't have a picture with glasses on, I do and I've still gotten got offers. Just post a full face high quality photo in good lighting. Then list all important/ relevant work experience and educational deets. Don't know what to put under your job description? Go to your jobs website if they have one and pull out some key points from that description! You can now smack the easy button.

So now you're back to typing. Start adding start talking. Start applying to jobs by requesting HR Managers directly and then emailing them your resume. It is 2017. It took a man to send a box of donuts to an employer to get her to read his resume. It'll cost you nothing because you got LinkedIn. The goal is to get noticed and make it known that you are interested. If that doesn't work, connect with other people in that company or organization. Someone will have a direct contact. Obviously be smart about it. Don't just email "Hey, I really want to work here can you give me a contact from someone that can make this happen..." What stranger is going to want to do that? None. Once again, introduce yourself and a very little bit about what you do and how it will be relevant. But before that ALWAYS ask how the person is doing. It's polite, professional, and shows that you aren't messaging for just your own benefit. Personally by experience, this has worked best for me.

So lets say you get an interview, now what? Go on Glassdoor and start reading reviews from people that once worked there. This helps because you'll get to know the pros and the cons, ALSO, some people leave potential interview questions that they will be using. Write them down on a piece of paper and start creating a well developed answer of your own. How to used LinkedIn with this: message people, like an intern, and ask them about their interview experience/ do they enjoy working there. Go on Google and search the company. See if there was anything relevant going on related to them in the news. Maybe it was a current collaboration with a well known designer, maybe they just had a new acquisition, maybe they are implementing a new technological system. You never know whats going to come up in a interview, so you want to be as prepared as possible. Since you "really wanted to work there," what better way than to show you actually care than about knowing the behind the scenes / staying up-to-date with all things related to them.

Here's just some of my personal tips/ ideas on using LinkedIn for jobs and interview prep. I've gotten five job offers/internship offers just from doing this. Lately I feel like a lot of people don't know how to properly utilize LinkedIn, so it's a missed opportunity for them. This blog post was highly requested and if I could help a few friends or strangers out, the content in this piece was the goal.
I hope this helps you on your journey! If you have any questions, comments, or even suggestions, feel free to drop them below.

Photo by Kieran Bammann. Hopefully someone caught on the chain links on my belt in relation to the post. I'm so witty, I know.
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